How Abuse Set Me Free

September 24th, 2010

Abuse??  Really??  How can the most degrading experience in the world set one free?  I am here to tell you that the abuse I have experienced in my life has set me free.  Watching who I had become after years of being a victim was scary.  I was doing things many would call self abusive.
I recognized that I was allowing myself to be a victim and that I felt so crappy about myself that I was becoming a self abuse bully.  I searched for years to find the one thing that would make me feel better about myself. It seemed that I experienced abuse and bullying  regularly in my life.  I used to fake being self confident and in my power but many saw through the facade and would treat me like the victim I believed I was.
Freedom means so much to me!  If I felt trapped or cornered I would become defensive or run and hide.  This was not freeing at all although at the time it was the best safety mechanism I had.  Looking back over the past few years I see how defensive I needed to be.  All the healing work I did helped but it was always there as my last resort weapon.
Last year I discovered Reference Point Therapy an alternative healing technique and worked on my defensiveness and my abuse issues.  After a few sessions and a workshop a friend said to me “Melissa, I do not see your defensive reaction any more!”  I had to really think about what she said because I did not realize how overt that behavior was and that it was gone!  So because I worked on my abuse I have been set free from my defensiveness as well as other behaviors that created havoc in my life.
I am grateful to my experiences.  I wake up everyday knowing that today will only be better than yesterday because I have been set free.

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80 Years old

September 13th, 2010

This weekend I had my mother’s 80th Birthday celebration.  It was so great to see my cousins , sisters, brother, grandchildren and great grandchildren honor my mother!  I am tearing up as I write this.

This weekend and my mothers birthday made me realize how we will never change if we do not work on our issues. My mother has the same insecurities she had as a little girl.  My cousin even mentioned how her mother (my mother’s sister) felt the same way as my mother.  I also see that same pattern in myself and my family.

I do not want to be insecure when I am 80!  I want to still be able to kick some a** if needed.  lol  I still have some issues but what I know for sure is that I am breaking the patterns that my family has had for generations.  Someday my children will be celebrate my 80th birthday and I hope they see me as a confident, loving person.  I use an alternative healing technique on my children and myself so we do not have to live the negative legacy of my family, only the positive.

I also realized how wonderful my family is, we have so much love and support for each other it is incredible.  I really enjoy the company of my family, no one understands each other more than family!  I am so blessed to have a wonderful family and my mother in my life!  I love you all!!

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Sustainable Joy

September 8th, 2010

Due to the nature of my work I see many people walk through my doors looking for happiness. They feel that if they had this ‘one thing’ or they had a soul mate or more money they would be happy. It pains me to see them live in such turmoil. What they do not realize is that happiness is a fleeting feeling and what they are really looking for is joy. According to the dictionary happiness is based on luck or good fortune and joy is a vivid emotion of pleasure.  So happiness tends to be situational.   The situation will make one happy at the moment or for a little while but joy is based on our emotional well-being.

Joy is an internal emotion that is always there if one allows it to be. Even in difficult situations a person who experiences joy consistently will still have the feeling of joy whether or not they are unhappy with the situation. As a mother I find I am unhappy with actions of my children or situations I may find myself in but I still hold that feeling of joy within me. There have been times when my I am very frustrated or annoyed but I take a minute and just recognize that with or without these unhappy feelings I still feel this calm sense of joy.

I see clients in a coaching capacity in which we use the alternative healing technique, Reference Point Therapy. What I have discovered is that joy is always present within everyone. There is not one person who does not have joy very deep somewhere within them. Through the discovery of Reference Point Therapy I have found that many cover up their joy with feelings of anger, resentment and issues around safety. Why do people cover up the thing that they say that they want the most? People will come to me asking for help with their emotional issues. It is apparent that they really want that emotional feeling of joy but because of fear they hide that joy under so many things.

Through Reference Point Therapy we clear the original reference point for the trauma that determined your lifelong patterns and release these associations at the original reference point. These patterns are inherited just like you eye color!  We carry these family patterns and issues with us so if we release the energy from the original reference point you may uncover the joy that has always been there.

In the RPT session I find the issues that are blocking them from realizing true sustainable joy. Throughout history when things go very well for people and they feel so much joy in their lives, then a catastrophe happens and they associate joy with catastrophe. I have had many clients that have situational patterns of when things are going amazingly well, devastation happens.  What I have found is that these clients have similar traumas in their DNA or genetics.  So it is safer for them to avoid joy at all costs so that you do not experience devastation. It’s a safety mechanism that we have created.  What I do, using RPT, is release that pattern at the original reference point. Is this something you have discovered within yourself?

When you’re in pure bliss and joy and a bad thing happens you fall further and it hurts more. Think about it this way, if you come from a family where there is abuse and you walk in the door in joy and you get yelled at or hit you will start to associate joy with abuse. These patterns are usually inherited so most likely you are experiencing the same things your parents and their parents experienced.  Reference Point Therapy is an empowerment tool that allows you to take charge of your own life.  It empowers you so that you no longer are controlled by your family patterns and issues.

Look to empowering yourself and releasing those old patterns that are blocking you from experiencing pure joy. Stop looking outside yourself for happiness. Our society is made up of people who overspend, over drink, overeat etc. because at the moment it makes them happy. Those things will not bring you happiness; joy is where we should be focusing. I’m sure you have met someone who seems to be joyful all the time. I bet you thought oh well they have a nice house, they are married, they make a lot of money etc. but really they have an inner sense of joy and when difficult things happen they always have that joy sitting there within them. They still have issues and problems but they have that joy. It is like an eternal reserve that is constantly bubbling over into every part of their lives, even when things aren’t going wonderfully because the reserve of joy is always there in them and everyone else, including you!

It is possible to experience eternal, sustainable joy.  Just let go of the old patterns that are covering up that joy.  Joy is always there, just uncover it and you will discover the Joy that has always been there.

Melissa Feick

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Mother Earth and Sedona

January 26th, 2010

I have been researching information about Sedona, AZ for the retreat this spring.  I have not been there for years and as I look at the red rocks I can feel mother earth calling me.  You do not have to be a tree hugger to appreciate and love the beauty and energy of our mother earth especially the red rocks and energy lines of Sedona.  I cannot wait to meditate and connect to the celestial and earth in the high powered center of Sedona.

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The uncreation of creation

January 22nd, 2010

Jan 22, 2010

Being in balance is possible!!  I experienced it the other day.  I was loading some media software (from a CD and it was a Sony Product) onto my computer and the computer froze and went dead.  OMG!!!!!  My computer has EVERYTHING for my business and personal life.  Videos, pictures, my websites, well you get the picture.  (Pun intended)  So I try to restart it, took out the battery and it still was trying to repair the problem and failing at it.  My next step was to take it to the Geek Squad in Best Buy.  The very nice man tried to restore the hard drive to a previous date, before I loaded the software that crashed my computer.   He could not get the hard drive to to restore, it seemed to easy fix was not working.  He told me that I needed to take out the hard drive, back up my system and do a recovery.  As you may know, that means that I will have only the factory settings and ALL the software I have loaded up will have to be reloaded and then reload all my other information I had to back up from my hard drive.  Really???  It will take me days to do all that!

Years ago that would have freaked me out but I was handling it well.  Ok, I bought the backup thingy and tried to back up my hard drive.  I just could not figure it out so I put it away for the night.  The next morning I woke up feeling stressed about all the information I may lose and all the work ahead of me trying to reload everything.  I realized at that moment that this was my creation and I could easily uncreate it!!!

I also realized that what happened was a way to sabotage myself.  I was working on some great projects that would get my name out there.  Many of us have fears come up when we think or take action to become bigger and more known.  So I took a few minutes and worked on my sabotage and other issues using Theta Healing and Reference Point Therapy.  It only took me a few minutes and I knew it was time to fix my computer.

I love my computer and she knows it!  Yes, she is beautiful and I really love her no matter how crazy that may sound.  I talked to her and told her that I loved her and we were done with the sabotage.  I tried again to restore it from a previous date. .  It WORKED!!!  I restored the computer to 2 days prior so the software I had loaded that was freaking out my operating system was no longer on it.

Although I was a little stressed I was amazed at how calm and level headed I felt.  I felt in balance and in control.  It was something I never knew I could do.  I know that all the Reference Point Therapy and Theta Healing work I have done has made the most profound changes in me and my reactions to life.  I am at peace with the world and know that I can shift what I created!!  The power I feel from this is incredible!

Thanks for letting me share!

Sending you love and peace

Melissa

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